Stuck with an abusive wife, the rare fact or is it becoming common?

Female abuse is a common cry. It is not a false cry. There are males who abuse their female spouses and demand services that the Shar'iah has not sanctioned. We cannot deny its reality. The issue, thus, has its merits.

Unfortunately this issue is also, in many cases, the means for the female, her family and supporters to gain sympathy for her and to use it as a weapon against her husband, or male partner in a format that does not find sanction in the shari'ah. Indeed, the phrase "female abuse" does become a strong voice for her since it is common for people to give her credentials and simultaneously label the male as the abusive partner. Who among the public know the facts of the case, who sees her errors, mistakes, screams in the house? Who notices her demands, her indecent behavior, her assault of the children, her abuse of her husband and the trauma she causes? Who among the sincere would ascertain the facts or reserve their judgment until they fully acquire all the details and complaints of the male spouse?

The reality of the situation is that male and children abuse by wives also exists within the Muslim and Islamic society as well. It grows deeper and has, likewise, led men to suicide, to other illicit relationships and towards depression and its consequences. It has been a factor for the break up of the home and has become a contributing reason for second marriage or illicit relationships despite the prohibition of the latter in Islam.

Rectification of her abuse and Islamically unacceptable conduct through the Qur'anic allowance given for beating her as an ultimate measure of disciplining and after attempts at re-conciliation and discourse, in justified situations and within the Qur'anic and hadith interpretations of "beating," is also considered by Muslims as unacceptable, indecent and impermissible. This is labeled as "wife bashing." a punch by a pugilist in the boxing ring is accepted as sport even if it leads to death, brain damage or a broken nose. A husbands punch, on the contrary, when emanating from justified anger, is termed as "abuse,"  "domestic violence," and perhaps hundreds of other inappropriate appellations.  In any case, this also leads her and her family to litigate against the male, threaten him with imprisonment, deny him rights of custody and. in some cases, show him that she can engage in other illicit relationships and sexual activities.

An anger may be justified, but has the accompanying physical expression also find justification? This needs an elaboration.

Yes, it is admitted that the psychological constitution of some females and their nature is a major factor, in cases of domestic violence, in the contribution of discord within the household which, after constant or violent argumentation over issues, leads to the physical engagement among them. The female's initiation of the fight by a punch, slap or extreme nail scratch is ignored. The male's response to that physical abuse is not tolerated and neither finds justification! Why? Why the double standards?

Where families scoff at a valid Islamic second marriage, the male spouse would, in some instances, engage in adultery and thus also increase the risk of STD (Sexually transmitted disease).

Provide us your views, disagreements and elaborations on the above